For years, one of my girlfriends would tease me by saying that I did not know how to be without a man. My quick response would be that "C1@&! $ $@ doesn't have to be so why should she?" I was about 27 years old when I realized that she was on to something. I literally did back-to-back relationships and for several years, I was a serial monogamist. I really did NOT know how to exist without a man in my life.
I decided to start on a 12-step recovery program. For a year or more, I focused on self, family and career. I came to realize that all of my energies had been wrapped up in finding Mr. Right and I had no life outside of that. It allowed me to see that some of my relationship failures were cause by my dependency on another person for my happiness.
So, I got a life. Began to again pay attention to the things that I was interested in and learned that in order to be happy with another person, I had to be happy with myself, by myself. I'm now looking for a mate that will add to my happiness, not be the source of it.
Hi, my name is Ms. SexyCool and I am a recovering relationship addict.
